- Does this choice benefit my welfare?
- Does this choice benefit the welfare of others?
- Does this choice lead to peace?
- You must be able to say ‘yes’ to all three for it to be a wholesome and right (ethical) decision or action. Only then will it not result in karmic consequences for your mind and body.
- In situations like this, we are actually caught in the delusions of “attachment” (to pleasantness) and “aversion” (to unpleasantness). Such attachments and aversions are always impermanent. As such, they always lead to some level of disappointment and suffering.
- "It is important to understand that anything that can be lost is never truly ours. Anything that we deeply cling to only imprisons us." [Jack Cornfield] -- and that includes ice cream...
Except for the quote from Jack Cornfield, I think I got the rest of these ideas from Thanissaro Bhikkhu, but I am not 100% sure about that.